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Learning From Loss

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This past weekend I was spending time with a close friend of mine who lost her husband last year. As we reminisced about the many memories of her late husband, our conversation unexpectedly shifted to the lessons we learned from this great man. Being a lover of life, he was also a man that always had a plan. He is a constant reminder that your life is exactly what you make of it.

When our visit was over, I couldn’t help but think about loss on different levels, how it affects us and how we grow from it…or how we decay from it. We all experience loss. It is inevitable in nearly every stage of our life. We lose loved ones, we lose jobs, we lose use of our body due to injury or illness, we lose confidence (even if only temporarily), we lose self-esteem, and often…we lose ourselves.

There is a great deal I have learned about loss in my (nearly) 47 years on this earth. Although there is more loss to come, bringing more lessons with each one, this is what I can share about a few of my own losses with hope that something resonates with you and helps you grow today.

• DEATH: When my best friend in college was brutally murdered, I learned that everyone deals with loss differently. Considering that this was my first true experience with loss/death, I was oblivious to this concept, and struggled to understand why some people pushed me away because I reminded them of her, while others smothered me in attempt to feel closer to her. After all, we all were in this together…right? Why couldn’t we all deal with it together, in the same way? It was a terrible time, and I found myself trying to make sense of something that would never make sense. I was desperate to feel close to her. I started doing all of the things that she did when SHE was alive, even though they didn’t all interest me before her death. It took a while to learn this lesson: TIME heals everyone. Tragedy hurts, but each person must embrace their own journey with it…and there is no “right path” to follow. Do things that bring joy to your day. LIVE, if nothing else, for the one you lost. They sure would be if they were still here with us! And sometimes you just have to separate yourself from people that choose to bury themselves in the sadness. You can’t save anyone that isn’t ready to be saved, so save yourself first. LIVE by example, it can be contagious. There have been many significant losses since my college friend, and each one has continued to teach me how valuable TIME is, and how time HEALS.

• EMPLOYMENT: Although I haven’t really lost a job, I have lost something that greatly impacted not only my job, but my life’s passion. As soon as I got settled into my first brick and mortar location for my business, the building I was leasing was pulled out from under me. It was a nightmare. Just as I was building my clientele base and getting momentum in my space, the rug was literally pulled out from under me when the landlord served me a notice they were tearing down my building & I had to move ASAP. As a gym owner, the last thing you want to tell your students is “we have to move, don’t know where yet, but don’t worry…keep paying me & it will work out”! This is the time you learn what you’re made of, and I discovered I had “grit” that had never been discovered. Over the next 3 years I would move my business 3 times, as seamlessly as possible with NO interruption. (I don’t suggest this to anyone, it’s incredibly stressful & expensive!) Losing a job would have been easy compared to the mental, physical, and financial stress during those 3 years…but I would have NEVER learned what I was capable of. I would have also never learned how powerful the community was with my members, friends & family that supported me and helped me get through that time. Lesson: When you help others, it ALWAYS comes back to you! 

• ILLNESS: Loss comes in many forms. For many years I have battled a nasty little thing called Ulcerative Colitis. It had been in remission for nearly 10 years when the stress of the 3 year business transition (mentioned above) wreaked havoc on me. Now 2.5 years after that dust has settled, I still haven’t gotten my system to calm down. That’s how powerful stress can be on the body. I have tried medicine (very expensive), acupuncture, & radical changes in diet. I tried everything I could, while ignoring what my “gut” was telling me to do all along. None of the “remedies” truly worked, at least not for long. But I kept working insane hours, rarely took days off, every waking thought (& sleeping thought) was about growing/maintaining my business & how I could have the biggest impact on others. I had lives to save! I didn’t listen to my body, my “gut”, and what it needed. I just kept giving to others instead. Then, for the first time in a long time, I got a few days off to spend at my most peaceful place on earth, the ocean. Only a few days, lots of sleep, and completely disconnected from everything…and my symptoms stopped. Not a trace. Not until I returned to my insane routine of giving all I could give to everyone else, too little sleep, stress, and no days off again. BOOM! All symptoms came back. Repeat same “miracle remedy” of ocean time again, and no shocker, symptoms stop again. It’s not rocket science, you can only go so long with high energy, stress, & no rest. Lesson: Give your body what it needs! Your body doesn’t fail you, you fail your body by abusing it and driving it into the ground. Now I still work insane hours and give all I’ve got…with a different attitude. When I can feel things building up, I just stop for a bit. Emails, marketing, planning…can all wait. I now allow myself space to “just be” and not have to get it all done every day.

• CONFIDENCE, SELF-ESTEEM, & SELF WORTH: People assume that because of my role as a leader in fitness, that I have never struggled with lack of confidence, a low self-esteem, or that I have never felt “good enough”. Truth is that I was a terribly shy child. I craved attention that I was not able to ask for. I felt weak & inadequate for a good bit of my youth. I was never an athlete, nothing even close! I was scrawny, and running to the end of the driveway left me wheezing. It was on a whim (& driving desire to change) after my senior year in high school that I started walking, then joined a gym, & then discovered how regular exercise made me feel. As I gained a little muscle, I gained confidence. As I gained ability to physically do things I had not done, my self-esteem rose higher and higher. Because I was physically stronger, I became mentally stronger and all the sudden, I WAS “good enough”. This transition grew stronger over the years and ultimately guided me like a compass to what I do today. I so much loved how I felt by taking control of my mind and body that I had to help others do the same. Lesson: Just because you don’t start with something, doesn’t mean you’ll never have it. All it takes is the decision to start something. Then take the necessary first step. And take another, and another. Every step adds up. Whatever you are lacking, and whatever you are dissatisfied with in your life…decide what you want to change and just start today!

When my friend & I were reminiscing of her late husband last weekend, we talked about his favorite and most recited quote: “LIFE IS GOOD”! It truly is, if you can see past the lessons we are forced to learn. There is ALWAYS a silver lining, and it’s rarely obvious. The challenges in our lives are put there for a reason. I believe they are there to make us stronger. One of our mantras at TFW Greensboro is “The STRUGGLE makes us STRONGER”! There is no doubt that I will face much more loss in my future. I expect it. And just as I have done until now, I will learn & grow from it.

If you are looking for a supportive community to help you thrive and grow, join our FAMILIA at TFW Greensboro. When you are surrounded by positive people on the same mission…ANYTHING IS POSSIBLE!

It’s all about the JOURNEY!

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Anyone that knows me, knows one of my personal missions in life, and one of the core missions of Training For Warriors, is to “Save Lives”. I want to help people live longer and better!

My latest goal is to start writing about our INCREDIBLE students at TFW Greensboro. Each and every one of them have a special story and inspires others just because they are taking on great challenge and change with their training and lives. The truth is that so many people are scared of exercise and really don’t understand our message and what separates us from other training programs.

Today, I’d like to share one of those stories. Steve Johnson has only been with our program for 6 months, but he has gained SO much in a short time! Maybe his story will sound familiar.

1. What were some of your struggles before you came to TFW Greensboro?
Getting up and doing the workout – or otherwise making it a priority in my day, dedicate time to do it. , knowing WHAT to do to maximize my results from my efforts, and understanding how to eat.

2. What made you reach out to TFW Greensboro?
The gym I was attending closed. But I wasn’t sure at the beginning – my old gym was really just a loose collection of guys that got together 3 days a week to workout with a trainer… limited access to equipment (no free weights) and no motivation or other ways to manage progress. TFW was an entirely different experience that I wouldn’t change.

3. What are some of the significant results you’ve gotten since training at TFW Greensboro?
Oh good lord, where do I start? Better fitness consistency, stronger, smaller clothes, new friends, friendly competition, common goals with new friends, respect for others’ goals/struggles/successes, better diet, better understanding of how lifestyle and diet affects results, desire to keep going even when it’s hard.

4. What are the top 3 tips that helped you transform?
1) Be consistent on training but diverse in method,
2) learn how to fuel myself,
3) be surrounded by team members who are going through the same thing I am.

If you are looking for a community of like-minded people to inspire and lift you to new levels, CLICK HERE to apply for a limited time offer for a one month trial. See for yourself what separates our training system from the rest! APPLY NOW and someone will respond immediately!

The GREATEST gift!

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July 13-17, I attended the 5th Annual TFW Summit. It was AMAZING! But the best part was not the entire TFW network coming together to take on physical & mental challenges together, or to spend 4 days with the most incredible motivator I know, Martin Rooney.  No, the BEST part was I was able to be part of something that would change someone’s life forever. For the last 6 months, my TFW network has been secretly raising money for a coach in our network battling cancer.  The money went to four college funds for her four daughters.  To see the emotion of the entire group when we revealed the big surprise to her (on the video below you will see we raised over $92,000 dollars has been raised so far!) I was reminded how much I have personally grown since becoming a fitness coach nearly twenty years ago. Nothing feels better than giving. NOTHING! Especially when you know the impact it will leave behind forever.

The following is a post from TFW founder, Martin Rooney, explaining this amazing thing we did for our friend & FAMILIA, Alicia Saldivar. You will want to read this, and for sure watch the video attached below:

This email is my attempt to outline the stages I have experienced as both a lesson and guideline to take you to a higher level.

As you mature as a human being, there are a number of natural stages through which you will pass.  As your life experience expands, the world will force you to understand what it means to be a better person.

In the beginning, you will naturally start off as selfish.  When I started Training For Warriors 19 years ago, although I am not proud to say it, I was mostly concerned with combining “cool” exercises into challenging workouts.  Yes, I cared about the fighters and athletes that were utilizing the program, but I have to admit I was greedy in terms of the results they achieved.  I took pride in their victories and kept the TFW program to myself and my small team in the hopes we had some competitive advantage.

The first step from selfishness starts with your ability to share.  At TFW, instead of keeping the information “secret,” my team and I started to give.  Giving without expecting anything in return is not easy at first.  It started with fighters at first, but then I began to realize TFW could help anyone looking to “bring out the warrior within.”  This giving lead to more people being positively affected and the more I shared, more people were starting to “win” his or her battle with fitness.

Sharing will remind you that when you give, you also receive.  Instead of worrying about what I could take and hide from others, I put my focus into how much I could contribute. From the feedback I received, I realized that championship belts and rings were no more important an achievement than using my program to be a better parent, worker or person.  With my books, blogs, podcasts and posts, I gave all I had, but started to receive much more of value in return.  The stories of how TFW was helping people and businesses got me to realize contribution was the key.

Contribution doesn’t make you weaker, it makes you stronger. As my contribution grew, so did my TFW organization and my connections with more people.  This zest for giving lead me around the world to grow my TFW organization bigger than I could have imagined. The amazing people of my TFW network helped me to reach the level that led to the video below: I started to worry more about how I would be remembered.

Instead of what you have out front, you will eventually worry about what you will leave behind.  When you live a life of contribution, a word that will start to pop up is “legacy.” Instead of measuring what you are achieving, you will become more concerned with the wake you are leaving.  For me, the driving force is now to positively impact as many people as possible. This mindset led to my “Top Secret” $90,000 idea mentioned above. Instead of asking, “what do I get?” the bigger question became, “how can I help?”

When you start to ask big questions, you get big answers.  Last year, I promised my network we would do something big toward cancer awareness.  After months of deliberating, I asked bigger questions than “what’s in it for me?” and got the big answer that would change me forever.  For the last 6 months, hundreds of people have kept that idea a big “secret.”  This is the revealing video that had over 110,000 views in the last two days:

I hope this blog forces you to identify the stage you are currently at in your life.  Are you still living a little selfishly?  Are you giving or contributing as much as you can?  Have you started to think about your legacy?  If not, Alicia’s story is the perfect catalyst to raise you to another level.  I challenge you to come up with your big idea that can help make the world a better place…and then do something about it.

Yours In Strength,


P.S. please share the video and if you would like to contribute to Alicia’s daughters, here are the individual links to each of their college accounts:

To Contribute To Hailey’s College Fund

To Contribute To Emily’s College Fund

To Contribute to Libby’s College Fund

To Contribute To Chloe’s College Fund

What Are You Waiting For? JUST START!

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Our yard was a mess! A complete disaster! It looked the worst it has ever looked, and my husband and I were embarrassed at how long we had let it go, and instead, made everything else in life a priority. We knew couldn’t ignore it any longer as the once beautiful lawn and flower gardens were now an eyesore…not only for us, but for our neighbors too! So, we made the commitment to dedicate a full weekend to take a little pride in our outdoor space.

With tools in hand, we stood there looking around (and at each other) and became immediately overwhelmed. ‘WHERE DO WE START?’ The truth is there was no great place to start. Every starting point posed a challenge. Nothing was going to be easy.

Live Longer, Live Happier With These 5 Things!

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As a TFW Affiliate, I get the pleasure of getting to know hundreds of amazing coaches from around the globe…all on the same mission as me: to SAVE LIVES! It’s an incredible thing to make these connections with like-minded individuals, share our stories, and together – inspire thousands of people each day!

My good friends at TFW South Metro, in Savage Minnesota, posted a great blog about HAPPINESS that I HAD to share with you, after all…who isn’t seeking more of it?! Spring is knocking on our back door as the days are getting longer and warmer, and buds and blooms are popping up everywhere here in NC. Take a touch of “happiness advice” from the folks who still have many cold months ahead of them!

What ONE thing could you do this spring to give you a fresh start to living a longer & HAPPIER life? If it involves creating a healthier lifestyle, you may want to consider checking out our next 8-Week Transformation Challenge starting in April! It’s fitness, nutrition, & motivation all together in one life-changing 8-week experience. Fill out this form and we will contact you ASAP with more information!

Whatever HAPPINESS it is you seek, you must take ACTION! Don’t wait for it to come to you, for it may then be too late!

Weight Is Just a Number

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We have a saying at Dailey Fitness/TFW Greensboro: “You can’t manage what you don’t measure”! If you want RESULTS with your training program, whether it be weight loss, muscle gain, strength improvement, to lose inches or to increase endurance & stamina…you must first start with a baseline measurement…so you can track your progress. If you’re not doing this, how can you know if you’re reaching your goals? Or if those goals are even realistic?! Weight is just a number…ONE number…and it is not telling you everything you need to know!

After being in the fitness industry since 1998, I have seen more than my share of disappointed people that spent all of their time and energy looking at ONE number-the one on the scale, without looking deeper into what the weight actually means. You train hard, you feel like you starve yourself trying to shed some pounds, and get mad because the number on the scale doesn’t drop as you expect it to. Sound familiar? Well, what you may not know is that if you train hard, and don’t feed your body with the correct nutrition, your body will tap into the most readily available source of energy-PROTEIN (which happens to be your muscle). In return, you may feel fatigue & ongoing soreness because your body cannot properly recover from the training. Muscle is the body’s internal fat burning machine…and the more muscle you have, the more efficiently you will burn fat. But how do you know if you are gaining muscle, fat, or retaining water when you stand on the scale that only shows you one number?


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“Your fear is 100% dependent on you for its survival.” ~Steve Maraboli

The “W.O.W.” (word of the week) = PREPAREDNESS!
There is huge link between FEAR, & PREPAREDNESS. When you are prepared, there is nothing to fear. However, lack of preparation can send even the strongest individual into sheer panic! The most successful people in this world have mastered preparation. If you aren’t where you want to be in some aspect of your life, I highly suggest you start to work on your level of preparedness in that area. If you are not reaching the body weight or fitness level you desire, look closer at your meal/food preparation. Are you “winging it” but still getting frustrated when nothing changes? Take small steps each day to create lasting changes. Small steps really add up to BIG ones!

Warrior HEALTH Tip: Need more energy? Always feeling unrested, no matter how many hours of sleep you get? Check out the morning habits that might be holding you back from your BEST!

PREPARE for greatness this week! 

Do you have SISU?!?!

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“SISU begins where perseverance & grit end. It is the ‘second wind’ of mental toughness, after the individual has reached the limits of their observed mental or physical capacities.” ~Emilia Lahti


The “W singulair allergy.O.W.” (word of the week) = SISU!

This word comes from Finland and represents the attitude to never quit, to never surrender, and to keep pushing forward. It’s a “YES” attitude! This word is one of the TFW core values, and part of the compass that guides our program & separates us from the rest! Finland is a country draped in darkness 9 months out of the year. Having SISU, a constant positive attitude, is essential to survive against the mind and threat of depression. We all deal with darkness…for it is human. Having SISU can often be difficult, but without it our challenges are daunting!


Warrior HEALTH Tip: Embrace Essential oils! There are tremendous health benefits, starting with protecting the largest organ of your body…the skin! With winter quickly approaching, and lots of irritants that will wreak havoc on our skin, here is a great article to help you decipher if essential oils might be right for you!


SISU my friends…SISU!

Train More FEAR LESS!

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“The fears we don’t face become our limits.” ~Robin Sharma


The “W.O.W.” = FEARLESS!

Change is hard, and let’s face it, often it’s scary! Whatever aspect of your life that you seek to change, you will find obstacles. The key to your success is to face the obstacles…face FEAR…in order to become limitless! Let this word resonate in everything you do this week. If we are not standing tall and facing our fears/obstacles…NOTHING CHANGES!


At the Dailey Fitness/TFW Greensboro DOJO, we have a saying “TRAIN MORE FEAR LESS”! To experience true fearlessness is the gift of training. And this does not mean fear of another person or opponent, but fear of everything! Fear of your job, your potential, your future. Your state of mind is the most powerful thing you possess. You can use it to push you to your greatest success, or you can let it hold you back. Push yourself past the comfort zone, and be AMAZED!


CRAVING CHOCOLATE?! Try this VEGAN chocolate cake recipe with minimal guilt! (Be sure to skip the canola oil & use coconut or avocado oil instead!)


Get your mindset RIGHT!

CREATE your best week ever!